tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6504626948762438017.post4194690437809279328..comments2023-10-04T06:45:02.926-07:00Comments on The Riveting Mama: So, I've got something to tell you....The Riveting Mamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03920776915429394231noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6504626948762438017.post-41075794346652904252013-05-25T22:01:33.315-07:002013-05-25T22:01:33.315-07:00I read what you've wrote so far on your blog. ...I read what you've wrote so far on your blog. How's the 2ww going? Probably like the torture I went through refreshing a website over and over waiting to see if I passed my boards last Tuesday :). For me, a known donor was out. (I wrote about this last month...I think). However, as I said then, everyone's journey is their own. <br /><br />Actually, the "connection" guy I talked about primarily in this post is still a good friend. We actually joked a bit when I showed him the lifetime photos of my "baby daddy." He's a sweet guy, just not the paternal type. The other guy is an ex of mine that I have been in contact with again. Another story for another day...I think what I've taken from it thus far is that dating and TTC is in many ways a lot like dating in general. Know who you are and what you want. Be willing to give a little, but stay true to your convictions. <br /><br />The Riveting Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03920776915429394231noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6504626948762438017.post-23723698457035152142013-05-20T15:12:12.893-07:002013-05-20T15:12:12.893-07:00This is a great post! I'm currently TTC with a...This is a great post! I'm currently TTC with a donor I know, so it's kinda making things on the dating front extra-complicated! <br /><br />We dated in the past (more info on my blog about this) but it didn't work out. I asked him if he would donate, he readily agreed. <br /><br />We have discussed what it would be like when & if the other one meets someone and starts dating... he is pretty worried about this, that it might end up being difficult for HIM (slightly selfish, but giving me a baby, lol).<br /><br />I tell him I DON'T CARE if you date someone down the road (I really don't, accepted long ago that there is no future for us). He is deep-down a good guy, so I think he will be good to have in my (and the kids) life for the long run.<br /><br />But for me, I don't even really think about dating! The pool of men in my area is oh so low and I am not interested in a relationship anyways.<br /><br />IF there was a chance that I found someone I was interested in during this whole thing, I can only imagine how awkward the conversation would be, not unlike yours! And then I think he'd hightail it outta there pretty quick.lonewolfmcsuedehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02445171351887919694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6504626948762438017.post-5270016919032398002013-05-06T15:18:33.256-07:002013-05-06T15:18:33.256-07:00Oh I get that for sure! It can be complicated; no...Oh I get that for sure! It can be complicated; no doubt about that! I guess in that case, I would view it like I would view any other situation where a child is involved. That alone wouldn't be a reason not to have a relationship with a person. Especially if both parents were in a good place about it. You're right; that doesn't mean there wouldn't be challenges down the road. If the relationship was strong enough, we would handle them as they came. The great thing about being an SMC is that there isn't any drama with the donor. But, since most guys haven't ever known anyone who became a mother in this way, do they have the ability to comprehend the difference between having a child with a partner and being an SMC? For now, the only feedback I have gotten from the two men I have told is that they know my intentions towards them are good, and that they have questions that they don't even know how to ask. I suppose it helps that they both already knew me to begin with. <br /><br />I suppose I should stop fretting about it. If I'm meant to be with someone at this time, he will come around. If not, then maybe the Universe has other things in store for me. <br />The Riveting Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03920776915429394231noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6504626948762438017.post-8980422718996563512013-05-05T17:27:47.596-07:002013-05-05T17:27:47.596-07:00I'm afraid I won't be very helpful, becaus...I'm afraid I won't be very helpful, because I chose not to date while TTC or being a new parent because it's just too frickin' complicated. I mean, consider it from your point of view - imagine if you just started dating someone you really liked, and maybe had thoughts of marrying and having kids with some day, and he drops the bombshell that he's actually in the process of helping a friend have a baby. How would you feel? I know for me I would be very disappointed by this news. I know single women do date and TTC at the same time, but I can't imagine how. It's beyond my abilities, apparently!wottadollhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16527435736562324563noreply@blogger.com